Spotlight Series on FocusTV with Host and Life Coach, Michelle Gillette

LINK:  Spotlight Series on FocusTV

My Spotlight Series on FocusTV is all about transformation: positive change whether that be via more vibrant health, better relationships, living a more purposeful life, giving back, following our passions or even by discovering useful life-hacks that create more ease in our lives so we can make time for that which is most meaningful to us. I’ve selected people in the community who provide the experience, wisdom, inspiration (or even the products) to help us live the life we are craving! Tune in and be sure to ask questions or make comments below — we would love to hear  what’s working in your life!

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UPCOMING EVENT: June 5, 2017  10AM – 12PM, Beverly Hills

Invigorate Your Life: Women’s Encore Career Workshop


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Interview with Functional Medicine Nutritionist Marlyn Diaz on FocusTV – Spotlight Series

We discuss clean-eating, health, wellness and life hacks for living a vibrant life


Interview with Animal Activist Marc Ching, Founder of Animal Hope and Wellness Foundation and owner of The Petstaurant -providing holistic wellness for pets on FocusTV- Spotlight Series

Marc Ching and I discuss how transformative and healing clean-eating can be for pets. We also discuss his mission as an animal activist and how his foundation rescues, heals, rehabilitates and cherishes abused animals, giving them a second chance at life, love and healing.




Interview with dating guru Kristine Givas of Kelleher-International, the nation’s leading high-end matchmaking firm

For those in the transition of “getting back out there” after 40, here is a discussion about one life-hack: using a high-end matchmaker. Ever wonder how they work? Tune in…


Love After Love

Love After Love  – by Derek Walcott

The time will come

when, with elation

you will greet yourself arriving

at your own door,

in your own mirror

and each will smile

at the other’s welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.

You will love again

the stranger who was your self.

Give wine. Give bread.

Give back your heart

to itself,

to the stranger who has loved you

all your life,

whom you ignored 
for another,

who knows you by heart.

Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,

peel your own image from the mirror.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Anger is not the enemy… it’s what you choose do with it





If you’re human (and I assume you are if you’re reading this– but any Martians, please identify yourselves in the comments below) then you will have felt these emotions at some point as they are part of the human condition. We have ALL felt them. Even the Dalai Lama has…he just has much better coping skills than most of us.


Even the Dalai Lama gets jealous.

He just has much better coping skills

than most of us

And that’s the trick: not rejecting those emotions, but embracing them, learning from them and figuring out how to process them in a healthiest way possible for the given circumstance. Use them as “sign posts” to guide you to issues you may wish to further process vs. signs that you are flawed.

Albeit , while the decidedly “negative” emotions are far less comfortable to feel, they are just as important to us as the poster-worthy emotions like joy, gratitude, and contentment.  You may not want to Pin the less celebrated ones on your Pinterest board or put them on your Tinder profile but they exist, and they do serve a purpose.  They are all here to tell us something.  They’re like our own gut-wrenching internal billboards and we must look at them more deeply to discern the message.  Sometimes the message is that we need better boundaries.  Or, we have old pain that hasn’t been fully processed.  Sometimes they’re indicators of something we really want deep down, but we’ve failed to acknowledge or allow ourselves. Sometimes they signify that we’re afraid and acting defensively.

Not until we take the time to honor these emotions can we benefit from the beauty and purposefulness of our inevitable duality.  We will remain unable to love ourselves in our entirety until we embrace both sides of our humanness. Our ying and our yang.  Our love and our hate.  Our light and our dark.
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Overcoming Mom Malaise

….and other feats of the modern day mom wanting to reconnect with her self 

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“I’m so busy making sure that everyone in my family is thriving, that I forgot to do it for myself!”

“I wish I could get my mojo back!”

I love my life! I love my kids! And they are my priority! But I feel like something is missing and that something is ME.”


Sound familiar? It’s not often discussed outside the covenant of mothers but there seems to be a degree of “Mom-Malaise” going around amongst us. As a mom who has “been there” and a life coach who specializes in the mom-space, I’m seeing this most often with intelligent, capable, loving mothers, privileged enough to devote themselves wholeheartedly to their kids but conflicted inside because they feel as if they’ve lost layers of themselves in the process. Now to be clear, it does not affect every mother; it’s not depression, nor is it even “unhappiness.” It’s more like a reoccurring discomfort or restlessness that can leave her feeling unlike her self.

That is, the version of her self that she misses most.


Mom Malaise:

It’s more like a frequent discomfort

or reoccurring restlessness

that leaves her feeling unlike her self.

That is, the version of her self

that she misses most.


In my coaching practice this is happening most commonly with mothers of tweens, teens and kids preparing to go off to college, with a predictable correlation to their kids’ natural, healthy, expected (but no less painful for mom) separation. The further away we perceive our kids to go, the more we’re faced with questions like:

“Who am I ?”

“What’s my relevancy”

“What’s my purpose?”

“What now?”

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Vagus, Baby! (… the vagus nerve, that is.)

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“Going to Vagus” to calm your nerves sounds like a oxymoron, doesn’t it?  But I’m not referring to the Vegas of bright lights, tassel bras, money loss, and wafting cigarette smoke that makes your hair smell like a tavern.  I’m talking about your vagus nerve,  the magical, multi-functional nerve that activates your parasympathetic nervous system (PNS.)

The Vagus Nerve is one of 12 cranial nerves; the one that many believe to be the most important in our nervous system.  The word “vagus” in Latin means vagabond or wanderer… and it is thought of as the “wandering nerve” due to its far-reaching capabilities.

It is the longest nerve in the body and it supplies the throat, thorax, abdominal muscles and other organs with nerves, as well as provides many other functions.  Because it stretches all the way from your gut into your brainstem (medulla), it quite literally provides that mind-body connection that we hear so much about.  It is the wiring between your head and your belly, and it acts as a highly intelligent communication device that tells your body how to react.

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Why should you care about it?  Because an activated vagus nerve is like the unsung super-hero of our body, capable of amazing feats.  Science has proven that vagus nerve can help do the following:

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I’m Breaking-up With Nachos


I’m breaking up with nachos.

Yep.  You heard me.  It’s time for a split.  And not a split of the banana sort either.  I’m talking real break-up.  Adios.  Sayonara.  Don’t come back unless you’re invited ….or you’re bringing me lottery winnings.

Who is this future-ex, you’re wondering?

Nacho Figueras, Ralph Lauren model known for his swarthy good looks and pony riding prowess?

No.  (I just mumbled “dammit!”, but pretend you didn’t hear me.)

I met the Nachos I’m referring to at Carlos O’Brien’s in Puerta Vallarta in 1982 and I’ve been madly in love ever since.  Addicted even.

I remember the night I first laid eyes on Nachos.  There I was in my gold Olivia Newton John “Let’s Get Physical” headband, my shoulder-padded mini-dress and my Candie’s shoes…clickety-clacking across the tiled floor directly toward the gorgeous but clearly VERY cheesy “hot dish.”  I was the tender age of 14 and couldn’t even explain what was happening to my nubile body, all I knew is that the sight made my stomach grumble and feel lusty.  I won’t divulge how many times I partook in fully experiencing the delicious bliss of Nachos on that trip,  all I can tell you that it was at least twice a day.  I was addicted and needed my fix. Continue reading “I’m Breaking-up With Nachos”